Being an expat makes you look as a brave person to the whole world- because you are. But people do not usually realize that there are some struggles coming with it.
The biggest of them, homesickness.
Some wise old person has depicted perfectly in a sentence the feeling:
You don’t realize what you have until you lose it
And so, far away from home, not having the possibility of going home is hitting us now harder than ever.
You might, however, find here some tips to help you cope with it.
Leaving home and all your friends and family comes with the realization that, at the end of the day, home really is where the heart is. And sometimes your heart is just aching the parts it has left with them.
We all do make new friends and love our new life, but sometimes what you really need I just that familiar voice and warm hug.
The current *unnameable* situation has forced us all not only to cancel our plans, but also to stop and quarantine.
Moving and packing your life is not just all happiness and great moments.
You also face tough times, and it is okay to admit, accept, and embrace them.
There are, of course, many ways to cope with this feeling and different things that might work for you. But let me share with you some of my tricks for when I feel lonely.
Just in case you found yourself lost and needed a little virtual help .
RULE NUMBER ONE: ACCEPT IT.
Acceptance is always the first step to heathly process and overcome the feeling.
The longer you deny it, the longer you will dwell on it.
And let me tell you, it will not make you feel any less brave and strong to let go of the pressure and be faced with the fact that you might be, even just a little bit, sad.
We are humans, we have many feelings all the time, coming like a roller coaster when we least expect it.
RULE NUMBER TWO: CUDDLE YOURSELF.
Earlier this year I discovered, thanks to Adriene, a super simple but very effective concept – the self-love.
Lay on a side, relax all the muscles and just hug yourself.
Remind yourself that you are there, that you’re safe and that you will be okay.
Grab your favorite drink, prepare your ultimate comfort food and get ready for some self-love. The key to feeling better is making sure that you – your grestest supporter- are ready for the incredible upcoming adventures waiting for you.
Sing, write, paint… find your way to use the power within you to create something even stronger.
If you need it, you can find a playlist I created for you for when you’re lost, away from “home”:
RULE NUMBER THREE: SPEAK UP.
Calling the people I love has an incredible ambiguous and polar opposite reaction for me. It makes me feel even sadder, and right afterwards, I’m again motivated and relaxed.
Reach out to your friends, have a little chat and get a bit distracted.
Not all the things are sad, difficult, and hard.
If you’re living abroad, you will easily be surrounded by a netwrok of other expats that do understand your situation and will be more than happy to watch a movie with you, go for a walk or share the struggle with you.
Always remind yourself that it is okay to be down, but that there are many more moments that make you feel great, happy and positive.
RULE NUMBER FOUR: YOU’RE NOT ALONE.
Wherever you are, wherever you go, you’re not alone. You never are.
Physically, spiritually (whatever you believe in!), and psychologically, there are more people sharing the feeling with you. The people you love are with you at all time, no matter where they actually are. This is the magic and the secret to long distancing.
Make sure to be there for them, and for the people who might need a hug in your daily life. It takes nothing to acknowledge their presence and, whenever you can, show your support.
To all of us and to all our sad and happy tears, we’re incredible human beings.
I love you, and you do love you!
If you do have some precious piece of advice to overcome homesickness, please, feel free to share it in the comments here below!
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